It’s time for a pop quiz! 

Question 1: When’s the last time you spent time alone—and I mean really alone?
Question 2: When’s the last time you went on a date with your spouse?
Extra Credit: When’s the last time you went on a parents-only getaway with your spouse?

If your answers consist of “never,” “uhhh,” or “that’s a thing?!,” it’s time for a parents-only getaway.

Now that I’ve told you you’re in need of one, your next thoughts are probably: it’s impossible, we don’t have anyone to watch the kids, or it’s too expensive. Well, I’m here to let you know that it is possible. Let’s start planning!

STEP ONE: CHOOSE A TIME (WISELY)

As the calendar commander of the family, you already know what’s coming up in terms of after-school activities, practices, recitals, doctor appointments, work requirements, and on and on, so pull out the calendar and find that blank space for you and your special someone. A Friday or a Saturday is always the most ideal, long weekends are great, and choosing a date far in advance will probably lower stress levels too.

Once you have found your date (if it’s a Saturday), pull up the LSU football schedule and make sure it’s an away game or an off week—for obvious reasons. Now, you’re ready for step two, which is probably the hardest.

STEP TWO: FIND TRUSTED CHILDCARE

When choosing childcare, start with your village: grandparents, aunts and uncles, close friends, nannies, and babysitters. Knowing your kiddos are with someone you trust—and someone they know—will not only help you relax while you’re away, but it will also make the experience more comfortable for your little ones. Perhaps this will be your child’s first night away from you. If so, talk with them about what that might be like, provide a number in case they want to contact you (via the caregiver), and let them know the itinerary, such as when you plan on pulling into the driveway. 

STEP THREE: CHOOSE A LOCATION

If your time away is going to be short, choose a location that is nearby. Baton Rouge is a great place for a staycation. If you want to venture to New Orleans, go for it! Find a location that you and your spouse can enjoy together, wherever that may be. I fully recommend keeping your budget in mind. Splurging is always a good time, but if you can save and still enjoy yourselves, that’s even better.

STEP FOUR: GEAUX

With your date picked, childcare lined up, and reservations made, all that’s left to do is pack your suitcase and hit the road—or board a plane if you’re really going for it. One thing that absolutely will not fit in your suitcase, though, is guilt. You deserve time away. You deserve time with your spouse to reconnect and have an adult conversation that doesn’t involve Bluey and Bingo. All you need to do is let yourself enjoy the time, have a drink, float in the hotel pool, read a book—whatever you want to do!

Besides, we all perform at our best when we’re happy and rested. Really, a staycation is essential to thriving as a family.